By Dr. J. Douglas Salmon, Jr. Adapted with permission from Multi-Health Systems & Dr. J. Douglas Salmon, Jr. from Rehabilitation Education and Coping Pamphlet Series It is important to recognize that a certain degree of moodiness and depression is not unusual in response to an illness or accident that has altered one’s lifestyle. Symptoms of anxiety and depression may also be common when one is going through a difficult time due to stressors or any traumatic events that have occurred in life. As a person adjusts to his or her change in lifestyle and goes through the normal recovery process or overcomes the stressful event, many of these symptoms should gradually resolve themselves. The following are common symptoms related to anxiety, depression, and emotional upset: sleep disturbance, worry, sexual disturbance, reduced appetite, social withdrawal, poor emotional control (e.g., crying easily, losing one’s temper), increased heartbeat, increased perspiring, and reduced activity.
The strategies listed below may he helpful in dealing with these symptoms: Anxiety, Moodiness and Irritability Identify Sources of Aggravation By identifying the factors that cause your moodiness or irritability, you may be able to find a simple solution. Factors such as tiredness, certain topics of discussion, certain times of the day, certain medications, certain situations, or certain people, may be the primary triggers of your aggravation. Once you have determined these factors, you may be able to avoid them or develop specific ways of dealing with them. Practice Self-Talk When you feel yourself growing upset, try repeating to yourself statements such as, “stay calm”, “relax”, “cool down”, “I don’t have to get mad.” Praise yourself for your success with statements such as, “that was good”, “good job”, or “I did it.” Leave the Situation When you feel that you are becoming angry, frustrated, or upset, leave what you are doing and return to the task later.
If these uneasy feelings occur during a discussion, tell the individual( s) that you need to relax and that you will discuss the topic after you have calmed down. Use a Relaxation Technique You may try one of several programs available in books, on tapes, or through counselling, which have proven to be effective methods to assist in relaxation. Less formal techniques include counting to ten, taking a few long and deep breaths, taking a walk in a serene place, listening to soothing music, sleeping, or just finding a nice, quiet spot in which to relax. Exercise Regular exercise, and exercising when you are feeling upset, can help to reduce tension, frustration, and anger, which often lead to moodiness and irritability.
Discuss or Write Out Your Problems Discussing or writing down your problems and your feelings about things may make you feel better. You may wish to consult with a religious leader, family doctor, or professional for counselling. If your anger is at the point where either physical violence or injury to others is a concern, please seek professional help immediately. Depression: Feeling Sad or Down If you feel that your sadness is not a serious problem for you and that professional help is unnecessary, the following suggestions should be sufficient to assist you in dealing with your sadness. If you have experienced thoughts of suicide or feel that depression is a serious concern for you, seek professional help immediately. Exercise regularly. Remain active. Make a list of positive thoughts upon which to focus and negative thoughts to avoid. Do things that you are good at and that usually make you happy.
Discuss or write down your problems and how you feel about them. Seek out those things in life that are meaningful to you (e.g., friends, family, religion, volunteer work, devoting time to a cause). Avoid people who are negative, critical of you, or who are often depressed themselves. Change to a more pleasant environment (e.g., visit or call on a friend who is usually in a good mood, go to a late night movie, or take a pleasant walk). Have fun and think of things that are funny. Do something to help someone else. Take on simple, manageable tasks to focus your attention and give you a sense of accomplishment (e.g., clean up, organize a room, or mow the lawn). If you have experienced thoughts of suicide or feel that these emotional difficulties are becoming a serious concern for you or are lasting too long, seek help from your family doctor or a qualified mental health professional.